Transform the Victim archetype to create greater happiness and more fulfilling relationships.

If you are anything like me, you can use as many reminders as you can get about remembering what it is you want to be doing.

If we have desires, for example, to have to courage to speak up when we feel afraid to use our voice, to end the power struggles we have with our children or loved ones, or to change anxious or depressive thought patterns, why is it so hard to actually do the things that will get us there? We feel inspired after a therapy or coaching session, but in a day or two, there we are again, not using our voice, perpetuating power struggles, and being overwhelmed by anxiety and depression.

There are many ways to come at this problem. One of them is to think about Survival Archetypes in the way Caroline Myss explains them in her book Sacred Contracts.

Think about the Victim archetype, for example, which is one of the four Survival Archetypes. We are all familiar with feeling as though we are just “not allowed” to have certain things, such as happiness, good relationships, good health, money, etc. Or, what if we, subconsciously, take pride in showing the world how hard the circumstances of our lives are and the attention that comes with it? Most of us have engaged in these patterns at times (I know I have). But what if we recognized those feelings as simply a way the Victim makes itself known to us, and once recognized, invites us to work with it by developing boundaries (via the Warrior archetype), stop taking pride in hardship, and continuing the work all the way to the evolved version of the Victim, which is called the Guardian of Self-Esteem? What if the act of cultivating the Guardian of Self-Esteem is one of the tickets we need to break free from destructive, limiting thought patterns that serve no one?

Stay tuned for the next Your Radiant Life newsletter: The path from Victim, to Warrior, to Guardian of Self-Esteem.